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Monday, September 07, 2009

State of my kid address...

My fellow parents... 

Kyla is amazing.

And tonight I write to tell you I believe she is doing amazingly well with her mom.

I'm setting aside - of course - the side of me that is selfish and wants you to believe that she would be better off with me, in her surroundings which include an amazing person in Sharon  who has been the greatest help to raise a kid that a single father in my generation could ask for - and with the amazing people at Academy, which have prepared her to be just as good as she is now in her current schooling situation.

No, I cast that aside because I've talked to her countless times since she's been back with mom, and I've never heard her happier.

Aside from that morning when her mom and I took her to Kindergarten on her first day. When she pulled my face into hers, and her moms into hers... although we were on different sides of her... 

Kyla is doing amazingly well. I have no doubt she's doing well at school, and from what I hear, she's exceeding the standard.

From what I see in pics her mom sends me, she's loving her new room,  her new bed from Ikea,  her new bathroom and she and her mom are happy in their "girl house" which they call home - just the two of them - in suburban Tampa, free of any boys to come in and eff it up. :)

And honestly, from what I believe, she's in a great place. It's hard for me to say that because I know my village - the people who played such a big part in her life til this point - like me - miss her terribly. 


She'll be back to visit soon.

Until then, I know she is where she needs to be.

Every little girl needs her mom. Just as she needs a dad.

She has both. That is,  her mom and her dad, friends. And although, to paraphrase her, "not at the same time..." I know that she's in good hands...

... and I stand as a sentinel... at a distance but not too far away... ready to jump in to make sure this life is all that it should be for her until she's in my arms again...

Summer, as it were, is not too far off after all...

... and all of us wait with baited breath for the day that she comes back to see us all for an extended amount of time. Because we love her. Because we cheer for her. Because we are there for her...

Because in life at times, it is the village that does carry a family.

Sara - thanks for giving me the greatest life that life can give.... Let her continue to bring you joy, just as she brings me joy every time the sun comes up...

... and remember the lessons in the sunrise.

-t.