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Thursday, October 13, 2005

My best friend...

It's been a little bit. I know, the STORY of my online life. Thanks for letting me have the time as a daddy to retreat into my life with Ky. She and I have had so many adventures... Like literally, every weekend, this 18-month-old marvel and I have experienced so many things... we've travelled, we've seen live music and shows... we've experienced life... and we've grown pretty close.

I've grown pretty close to someone else, too. Let me tell you about my best friend...

I say that because the other night, she and I were talking about best friends. She's got several best girl friends... and I've got some guy friends who I consider to be among the 'best of my friends...' but no one that really held the title of 'best friend' until now.

What is a best friend, anyway? It's someone that you share everything with. Someone that good, bad, ugly and gross... happy, sad, depressed, elated... you share it all with them. Someone who - no matter what - loves you. Unconditionally. TOTALLY. She loves everything about you - celebrates with you - loves your daughter... loves your family. She's someone who's made your mom cry tears of joy and who has made you feel in ways you've never felt before. She's someone who you will throw yourself aside for just because she's worth it. She's someone who can correct you in front of your parents because you get embarrassed or aggravated and start to get angry... reminding you 'not to talk to your parents that way... now I'm mad...' causing you just to back down...

That's right. My partner is my best friend.

Now, I've had other partners in life... but I've never ever called one my best friend before. They've been good friends... maybe they've just been friends... some, well, they were friends with benefits... but this one, is my best friend. That's why this one is so special. That's why I've kept this one so close to my heart lately, along with the time I spend with my little one, Kyla.

When your partner is your best friend, it's funny - arguements don't seem like arguements... they're discussions that get resolved. You never feel away from them even though you're apart because best friends truly live in a special place in the heart. You may miss them, but it's okay, because you talk to them so often that you're never really that far away. You finish eachothers thoughts. You can read eachothers mind. You know when things are wrong - even if you've not said anything at all. You try new things you've never tried before. You realize that they're a part of you and you're a part of them... that you are together an unstoppable - and amazing force in whatever you do...

You start your day talking to them. You end it talking to them. When you're with them - you stand back quietly and watch them... proud of them... because that's what best friends do.

You're affectionate in public just because you love and not because it's a feeling of 'what you should be doing'. The material becomes so much less important than the emotional... and the spiritual... and the past - although real - and at times painful - can be overcome... because best friends can overcome anything.

Is the person you're hanging with your best friend? Would you tell them everything - no matter how deep and dark... no matter how happy or sad? Will they accept you - teh total of you - all of your parts and all of your involvelements?

Are you scared of what they find when they clean below the surface? Or dig a bit deeper? When the one you're with is your best friend... those fears may be real, but they fade, because when you're in a relationship with your best friend, the relationship is built on something lasting, and real... something that will overcome storms, trials and tests... and something that will endure...

If the one you're with is your best friend... it can unlock the mystery of destiny... and can lead you in an adventure like you've never imagined.

If you'll excuse me, I've got a little one to check on... and someone to call...

... my best friend's waiting on me...